It’s quite stressful to plan a wedding! You’ll find that it can take its toll on you physically, but it’s also going to put a strain on your relationship.
If you want to plan your wedding without getting into arguments and fights at every turn, here is some advice to help you out:
- Be clear on what you expect — Men don’t usually do well with the wedding planning overall, but they’re usually fairly capable of handling a few simple tasks. Make it clear that you don’t expect him to help everywhere, only with these few things. Of course, don’t shut him out if he wants to help, either. Accept his suggestions and consider them. Just make sure he knows that you only NEED his help for a few things.
- Know what to fight about –– There are a few things that are going to lead to conflict, such as the guest list, the budget, the music playlist, and perhaps one or two other things. And then there are the little fights, the silly ones, such as over whether Aunt Mabel should sit with Uncle Bob or Uncle Charlie. Let those little fights go, as they’ll only make it harder to deal with the bigger issues.
- Set a budget, and stick with it –– For many men, a budget is sort of their way of being certain that you’re not going to go overboard with the wedding expenses. Sit down and prepare a budget, and do your damnedest to stick to it! Slash any extras that go outside the budget, or be prepared to bargain with your man for the extras. But to avoid a fight, make it a point to only spend the amount you have allotted.
In Part 2, we have a few more tips to help you out…