Relationships are NOT easy! It takes hard work and acceptance in order to succeed. Here are a few things to accept for a successful relationship:
You can’t change him/her — There is nothing to “fix”: they are who they are. If you go into the relationship expecting to change them, you’re doomed to fail. Love them for who they are, or not at all.
They’re as flawed as you are — It’s always easy to see the flaws in others, but harder to see your own. Accept that you have a flaw for every one of theirs, and you will control your unrealistic expectations of them!
No one is perfect — No relationship is every “picture perfect”. Stop trying to make yours into the ideal love story.
They are human and will make mistakes — Your partner is going to make mistakes–it’s just a part of life. Accept it, remember your own shortcomings, and move on. There are very few mistakes too large to forgive!
There will be good and bad — With every up comes a down, and vice versa. You can’t expect all “good times”, but you have to prepare yourself for some sadness and down times as well.
You are different — No two people are exactly alike, so stop worrying about your differences. In fact, those differences can actually be what keeps you together and makes you ideal for each other. It’s like a system of checks and balances.
You are both a bit of a mess — No one has their life together. You are as messed up as he/she, no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise. Accept that you both have a long way to go, and you can make the journey together!